This was a really wonderful book for introducing me to new ways of seeing and talking about relationships. It helped clarify and label some of my intuitions about why some of my past relationships worked or didn’t. It also helped me see patterns in some of my relationships I’d never noticed before… both on my end and my partners'.
That said, it’s a bit wordy and fluffy and could have been significantly shorter while still retaining all the core ideas.
My favorite quote (p21): “Most people are only as needy as their unmet needs.”